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Short Summary
Main recommendation: Have the Shabbos tablecloth and candelabra set on the Shabbos table by 12 o'clock on Friday, and light candles the moment the posted candle-lighting time appears, so Shabbos begins on schedule in the home. The speaker presents this as the advice the Chofetz Chaim gave a mother whose only child was dying, and links it to bringing tranquility into the home on Friday afternoon.
Key Points
- The story, originally told to Rav Silverstein by Rav Simcha Kaplan (who heard/witnessed it as a bochur in Mir), concerns a woman in the town of Mir whose young son was given up on by doctors in Vienna.
- She was advised by a stranger in Vienna to seek a blessing from the Chofetz Chaim in Radin.
- The Chofetz Chaim gave her two instructions instead of a fast or extra prayer, and she reported that her son recovered.
- The speaker reads the word "shamor" in "Shamor es yom haShabbos" as both "observe" and "anticipate," so early preparation shows anticipation of Shabbos.
- Citing the Arachin and a teaching attributed to Rav Silverstein, the speaker says the Satan gains strength on Friday afternoon to bring turmoil into homes, tracing this power back to Adam HaRishon's first sin, which occurred on Friday afternoon.
Details Worth Noting
- Concrete instructions:
- Have the Shabbos tablecloth on the Shabbos table by 12 o'clock every Friday.
- Have the Shabbos candelabra on the table by 12 o'clock as well; the wine and challah are not required by then since they could spoil.
- Light candles (bentch licht) at the time posted in a Yiddish newspaper or calendar, not later, since that is when Shabbos begins in the home.
- The speaker suggests, especially to women, placing the tablecloth on the table Thursday night before bed so Friday morning already feels like Shabbos.
- The Rav's instructions were given to a mother whose child had been sick since age two and a half or three; the speaker says the child recovered by the end of that week.
- The speaker states that the Chofetz Chaim could no longer fast for others, which is why he gave these instructions instead.
- The story is presented as a lesson on home atmosphere rather than as professional medical advice.
- The speaker links the preparation to Friday night when women and daughters can daven and sing together, which is harder if there were arguments earlier in the day.
Bottom Line
Preparing the Shabbos table early and lighting candles at the posted time is presented as a way to bring calm and anticipation into the home before Shabbos begins.
