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Short Summary
Main recommendation: To find your own communication style, pick three communicators you genuinely enjoy listening to, emulate their speaking, communication, and movement styles closely, and then gradually add your own "flavors" until the style becomes yours. The speaker frames this as a chef learning recipes: copy precisely first, then personalize.
Key Points
- Discovery starts with taste: you find the communicators whose style resonates with you by experiencing them live, online, or in person.
- Copy before you personalize. Early attempts will be "off," and repeated practice gets you closer to the original.
- Emulate speaking style, communication style, and movement style, not just content.
- If your imitation overdoes a trait, dial it back, then reintroduce your own version.
- Blending several influences, each drawn from a different person, produces a style that is distinct from any single source.
Details Worth Noting
- Concrete instructions:
- Write down three names of communicators you genuinely enjoy listening to and think "I just love listening to this."
- Study how each of them speaks, communicates, and moves, and copy those elements closely, as a chef copies a recipe.
- Practice repeatedly; expect the first attempts to miss the mark and keep adjusting until they match the model.
- Once you are close, back down any exaggerated traits, then deliberately add your own elements.
- The speaker's own example: Les Brown (US motivational speaker), Darren Brown (UK magician, not related), and Brené Brown (not related), whose styles he combined with his own.
- The speaker says you do not have to invent from scratch; use your visual, auditory, and experiential senses to notice what you like about others.
Bottom Line
Authentic communication is built by deliberately imitating a few admired communicators and then layering in your own traits, rather than trying to be original from the start.
